Watch Your Words
A series this month that will focus on the way we speak to ourselves, our children, and our partner.
Throughout this series, we’ll look at negative self-talk, the lasting impact of how we speak to our children and how our interactions with our partner can shift and alter our relationship.
According to research, repetitive negative thinking may increase a person’s risk for developing Alzheimer’s disease. And in another study, research has found that if we can practice self-control, we can improve our brain’s ability to exercise self-control. Ultimately, our mind has the power to alter our brain!
When it comes to the way we speak and communicate to our children, childhood experiences of shame change who we are, how we think about ourselves and our sense of self-worth!
The habits we have and the relationships we foster, good or bad, are all for reasons – mostly subconscious. If you’re wondering:
- Why do I always have to be accomplishing something?
- Why do I get frustrated when my schedule is completely thrown off?
- Why do I feel like I have no control when I have something on my schedule?
- Why did I just yell at my kid like that?
- Why can’t I allow myself to rest?
- Why can’t I figure out what I want in life?
There are reasons for these thoughts and actions. There are reasons you speak poorly to yourself. There are reasons you argue with your partner over the same thing time and time again. And there are reasons you intermittently speak to your child in non-therapeutic ways.
These are learned behaviors and likely unresolved wounds that you are subconsciously acting out in the now with a compelling need to heal your own old childhood wound.
“So it is with the unconscious mind: the orderly, logical thoughts of our conscious mind are but a thin veil over the unconscious, which is active and functioning at all times. When we fall in love, this unconscious, trapped in the eternal now and having only a dim awareness of the outside world, is trying to re-create the environment of childhood. And the reason the unconscious is trying to resurrect the past is not a matter of habit or blind compulsion but of a compelling need to heal old childhood wounds.” The Unconscious Partnership, by Harville Hendrix
There is so much to explore with this seemingly simple topic. Watch your words, speak nicely to yourself, love yourself so you can love thy neighbor. But when it comes down to it, the way you speak to yourself, the way you act with your partner and the way you raise your children is happening on such an unconscious and subconscious level.
Stay tuned for insight, support in exploring the way you communicate and tips and tricks on how to better your communication to optimize your relationship with yourself, your children and your partner.