Self-Worth – what is your worth?
Webster defines self-worth as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” What is your perception of your worth? Is it: I’m worth more than this? I’m not worthy of that? I will always be unhealthy? I can get healthy? I won’t succeed?
Often, our perceived value or self-worth is based on the stories and limiting beliefs we tell ourselves. I won’t succeed. I’m unhealthy. I’m not good enough.
The thing about these limiting beliefs is that when we attempt for something more: a healthier lifestyle, a job promotion, a better grade on an exam, a better race time – if our limiting belief is: I’m not good enough, I won’t succeed – we will likely not achieve our goal. When our results start to exceed our limiting belief, we often start to self-sabotage.
Let me give you an example: I want to live a healthier lifestyle, which for me is about working out daily, obtaining a healthy weight for my size, choosing healthy and supportive relationships, sleeping well, feeling energetic and being optimistic. Let’s say my limiting belief is, “I am unworthy of good things.” I start my pursuit of a healthier lifestyle: I start to lose the weight, feel happier, more energetic, my relationships are flourishing, and my sense of well-being has completely shifted. My results are exceeding my limiting belief of, “I am unworthy of good things.” This is when I am likely to start self-sabotaging. How would I do this? I may stop working out. I choose the chocolate instead of the salad. I stay up too late mindlessly scrolling or watching TV. I pick fights with the people in my life. By doing this, I then match my results to my limiting belief. My overall sense of well-being suffers, and I find myself right back where I started which reinforces my belief of “I am unworthy of good things.”
Can you think of a time in your life where this has happened to you? Maybe with a weight loss journey? You start to lose the weight, have a slight stall in the weight loss and then revert back to your old habits because your perceived worth or belief is “I will never lose the weight,” “I will always be unhealthy.”
How do we overcome and change our perceived self-worth when it is not serving us? The first thing is to recognize your limiting belief(s), the second thing is to change the story and the third thing is to surround yourself with people that have a higher perceived self-worth than you.
Our limiting beliefs and believed self-worth can affect our identity. Are your limiting beliefs serving you or sabotaging your efforts?